Power of Our Beliefs
Others beliefs do not have to be yours.
In 2021 our son’s live-in aide gave her notice. Craig (31) with a diagnosis of autism, cannot live on his own. Mary decided to move on in her career and change jobs. I thoroughly supported her decision and wanted her to be happy and fulfill her dreams. Mary and Craig were living in a townhouse that we owned.
We worked with our case manager and contacted the agencies in our area that provided homes for “other-abled” adults. Craig did not want to be back at our home and he did not want us living with him. Our case Manager told me we would not have a new home for Craig till June 2021, the current date was Feb 1 2021 and Mary was leaving April 9, 2021. What would we do for 2 months? How many transitions would Craig have to make? Craig does not want Mom or Dad living with him. I was initially filled with fear.
Wait a minute! Just because Lorna believes the timeline is 4 months out, does not mean it has to be my belief. I wrote in my journal, put on my vision board and visualized every day: “ I am a perfect new home for Craig by April 1st. A home that is best for Craig and a home that is best for us”. I took the small steps each day to move the process along. I stood fast in my belief that the universe would line up. I was optimistic and and did not let my ego take me down a negative path.
The next 2 weeks we researched and interviewed potential agencies to help us.. Two weeks later we met a couple who were certified and ready to take in an “other-abled” adult, They were trained and ready to go but the young man that was going to move in with them in Feb 2021 changed his mind. We met them several times with Craig and they were lovely. We even have a common friend who spoke very highly of the family.
Craig moved in to his new home on April 9, 2021. The couple is patient and loving and care about Craig. They are both social workers. What are the chances?! After 2 weeks of ups and downs with the transition, Craig now calls the “Blue House” home. The couple also provides live-in care for another disabled young man; a peer for Craig. The “Blue House” is 10 minutes from our home and we see Craig quite often; he never forgets to remind me “Mom, Blue House after dinner.”